Energy Over Appearance: Redefining What Truly Attracts
Did I find the secret sauce for pulling fine men?
Would you rather have a gorgeous or smart partner?
A group gathered in the living room of my friend’s two-bedroom apartment for Juneteenth weekend, playing Bad Choices — the card game version of “Have You Ever.” I’m still unclear on the real rules of the game, but we had added alcohol-related consequences. Depending on the consensus of yeses, you would have to drink. I arrived late but that didn’t stop me from chiming into the choir of chaos every chance I got.
When this card was read, I smiled to myself before catching my friend’s eyes. They egged me on.
“Well, I do love a smart man,” I began, pleading a case that hadn’t yet been challenged.
“And you do love a light-skinned pretty boy,” she replied.
Was she wrong? No.
However, I also like a pretty brown-skinned, dark-skinned, white, Asian — the list goes on and on.
Vain? Yes. A colorist? No.
I’m a pretty girl, but I’ve slowly begun to accept that I sometimes punch above my weight class in the looks department. Just last week, I was invited to crash an influencer event. The room was full of beautiful, beat faces, complemented by perfectly coiffed…
